Moving is easier for adults than it is for kids, even though they may not be doing much of the physical work. The emotional toll it can take is much different. They aren’t as used to change and can be afraid of new situations, new people, and a new school. It’s hard starting over, especially when everyone else already has friends.
Make sure to explain the reason for moving in terms your kid(s) will understand. And don’t get upset if they don’t get it right away, moving for a job isn’t the most important thing in their world, which is smaller than an adult’s world. Give them time to get used to the idea, let them know why it’s important and listen to them when they talk about their fears. It’s important to be understanding and give their concerns validity.
A great way to make the move easier is to make it an adventure. If time allows, stop along the way to eat, explore and spend time with one another. Putting together a survival box that has familiar items in it and will make a great place for them to keep new keepsakes.
Help them acclimate to the new space before you arrive. Teach them how to greet new people and make new friends. Give them an idea of what the new town, state, country will be like before the move actually happens. Taking the mystery out of it can take the fear out of it as well.
5 Tips to Make it Through a Move
- Create a ‘Survival’ Box
- Take Lots of Pictures and Share Them with Friends ‘Back Home’
- Learn About the New Place Before the Move
- Keep in Touch with Friends (Skype, Write Letters, Phone Calls)
- Explore Your New Digs and Find Places Where People will Have the Same Interests
Most of all, give your kid(s) time to get used to their new home, new city, and new life. It’s a big adjustment for them and they likely aren’t going to be ready to jump in with both feet right away. If the move is prompted by anything concerning, like a divorce or sick relative, make sure that you address those issues as well. Sharing our video The Great Moving Adventure might help as well!